Do you always find yourself breaking a habit after 4 days of consistently doing it because you tell yourself that you can do it tomorrow because you did a great job for being consistent for 4days?
Rewarding yourself is not bad but think about it again. Are you rewarding yourself or you are making an excuse to avoid the task?
Our brain has the tendency to avoid things that are not comfortable and that is when we create excuses to justify the escape.
Escaping the hard task looks fun for the brain and going back to your comfort zone is tempting for your soul that does not want discomfort. However, these are both enemy of growth.
Nope. You do not need to go to a difficult situation. You do not need to immerse yourself in a new culture. You need to face what is in front of you that will help you to become the person you wanted to be.
Look at the plants around you. They do not move but they keep growing. It is not easy but that’s how they survive. Try to find a newly planted seeds in the ground and observe them for a couple of days. They push themselves to go up and see the light. After seeing the light, they do not stop there. They try to adjust their resources, shifting hormones or proteins to adjust to the situation. They work a lot but we only see their growth and development for the benefit of other organisms. And it is so beautiful.
Imagine being a plant today. They do not make excuses. They try their best to keep growing and developing for what they are made for. And may you be strong enough to fight your strongest excuses for your own growth and development.
I decided (as paladesisyon) that I will give my thoughts and quotes I like about the book I aim to finish each month. For January, I read The Secret History by Donna Tart. Below are my thoughts, expressions and quotable quotes.
I was like where was Vermont?
This can’t happen in real life.
Oh, wait! What?
Did they kill him?
No way!
OMG! He’s alive!
Or not?
I had a nightmare the night I was reading the part that they were trying to find him.
This coming February 14 what are you planning to do alone or with someone? If you haven’t found out, here are some ideas you can start with or include in your plan.
1. Watch a movie in the cinema
Classic date night in the cinema for me never gets old. You spend time focusing on the same thing is intimate and builds connection. Make sure that whoever you are with agrees with the movie you will watch.
2. Dine in a restaurant
Another classic one. Try out a tasting menu. Or a fancy steak house. But again checkout your companion cos you don’t wanna bring your vegan or vegetarian data in an all-you-can-eat Samgyupsal restaurant.
3. Attend a concert
Do you have a band or orchestra you enjoy listening to? Then you might find where they are performing in two weeks and reserve your tickets. Be together until midnight with the type of music you both enjoy.
4. Walk around the park
A date does not necessarily about spending too much. Knowing the person you wanna take on this kind of activity is vital. You can spend your time roaming around checking out stuff in the park making sure you do not complain having painful legs at the end of the day.
5. Street food crawling
I love street food and if you take me to one I will consider that a sweet gesture on a date. It is cheap but I love these food. However, if your date is not a fan of this kind of food then consider other activities on this list.
6. Shopping
Nothing is wrong in retail therapy as long as it is still within your ‘wants’ budget. Window shopping may be therapeutic to others and may also be the root cause of your stress so communicate your intention when doing this kind of activity alone or with someone.
7. Play arcade games
Video games, basketball, or car racing. Name it and most big arcades have it. An hour won’t be enough and therefore you have more time to spend with that person enjoying different games and getting a price if you are lucky enough to hit a jackpot to get that big teddy!
8. See a theater play
It may be boring or worth each other’s time. The key is to ask your date to honestly tell you if he/she want to see a play cos you will need time before that play to book your tickets and you don’t wanna bore your date after that day of the play.
9. Cook food and do a picnic
Cooking our meals is cheap but can give someone the impression of you making an effort to cook especially if you cooked that person’s favorite food because you gave attention to what they say or do. Checkout the picnic area and bring food that is appropriate in the place.
10. Trekking
This one is kinda intense if you consider like trekking the highest mountains! LOL. But why not if both of you agreed go for it and then you can spend the night camping there if the place allows. Plan to bring the needed stuff before doing this one.
11. Do bar hopping
But, do not get too drunk especially if it is your first date. It may be a turn off to your date. Bar hopping gives the both of you varieties of bar ambiance. Sometimes some bars may have fun games or a live band and lucky you if you get to those bars!
12. Camping
Whether at the foot of the mountain, by the beach or lake, camping is something that will allow you to know your person better. This is spending the night with the resources available and enjoying the company you have while dealing on whatever challenge that may arise in the camp.
13. Try out all the rides in an amusement park
Age is just a number. Unleash your inner child by spending the day in an amusement park and trying out all the available rides. Your date may be scared of the rollercoaster but may want to try it with you and that gives you an idea of the trust that person has in you.
14. Spend the day in a museum
I like going to historical museum but my friend easily gets bored in there so talk to your date if they want to go there if they said yes you may need to reserve your tickets. This can create conversations that may arise while looking around the things that interest you both.
The key in all the above-mentioned activities would be to communicate the plans you have. Surprises are fun if you know very well who you gonna surprise. But, knowing that both of you enjoy the activities you are planning will result to a more successful Valentine’s date!
Valentine’s day is in two weeks time! Have you thought of any flowers to give your special someone? Here are some of the flowers you can give them and their scientific names:
1. Rose (Rosa sp.)
2. Tulip (Tulipa sp.)
3. Dahlia (Dahlia pinnata)
4. Orchid (Order Orchidaceae)
5. Sunflower (Helianthus annuus)
6. Lily Stargazer (Lilium sp.)
7. Daffodil (Narcissus pseudonarcissus)
8. Carnation (Dianthus caryophyllus)
9. Lavender (Lavandula angustifolia)
10. Gumamela (Hibiscus rosa-sinensis)
11. Daisy (Bellis perennis)
12. Iris (Iris sp.)
13. Petunia (Petunia x hybrida)
14. Geranium (Pelargonium sp.)
You can also mix and match these flowers or get a mixture of this into a bouquet. Or, if you are on a budget, try out paper flowers with a personalized note in there. Surely, someone special in your hear will appreciate the flower you gave them as long as you make them feel loved.
Love season is just sitting around the corner. Have you ever thought where to bring your date, bf, gf, mom, dad, sibling or yourself (cos *insert Miley Cyrus’ Flowers* I can date myself)? Here are some places where you can bring that special someone:
1. Park
2. Beach
3. Mountain
4. Cinema
5. Restaurant
6. Cave
7. Amusement Park
8. February Fair
9. Concert
10. Light Show
11. Zoo
12. Arcade
13. Botanical Garden
14. Lake
Or, if you are both home buddies, you can set your date night at home with home-made food watching TV or playing video games!
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