A Message to My Reincarnated Self: What If Death Is Only the Beginning?

What if death isnโ€™t an ending at allโ€”but a doorway?

We grow up being taught to fear death, to see it as the ultimate full stop at the end of a sentence called life. But what if that punctuation mark is wrong? What if death is less of a period and more of an end of another season, like a series of a Netflix show? What if it is you in another form, another body, another time?

Across cultures and centuries, reincarnation has whispered its way through human belief systems. I grew up believing that death is the end, while questioning what happens to all the souls that have left the body over the past thousands of years. I once held onto the idea that if we did good and lived kindly, death would lead us to an eternity of happiness. However, I am bothered by what happens to all the contented souls deprived of struggles or challenges.

The idea of reincarnation comforts me more. The thought that we have a life after this but of course, we do not have a clue who we were previously. I believed that our next life is based on how we lived our lives prior – we do good, we get a better life; we do bad, we get a challenging one.

If this is trueโ€”if our death is the start of another lifeโ€”may that future “me” get a head start and a good life.

And so, I want to write a message to that “me” in another body in another life.

Not to my future self in five or ten years, but to the soul that may inherit my wit, my tendencies, my scars, and my unfinished questions.

To You, Whoever I Become Next

If youโ€™re reading this in some inexplicable wayโ€”through intuition, dรฉjร  vu, or an unshakable feeling you canโ€™t nameโ€”I hope you are kind to yourself. Please do not let my bad habits carry over to your life, and be better than I was in our previous lifetime.

I hope you remember that life is not meant to be perfectly understood. I spent so much time trying to make sense of everything: people, pain, purpose. If thereโ€™s one thing worth carrying forward, itโ€™s thisโ€”meaning isnโ€™t always found; sometimes itโ€™s created.

Please donโ€™t be afraid of starting over. Iโ€™ve learned that beginnings are disguised as endings, and endings often arrive dressed as losses. Trust the cycles. Trust that confusion is not failure; itโ€™s growth in disguise. Trust your gut. Ignore whatever other people might say. Be brave and persevere.

Love deeply, even when it hurts. Especially when it hurts. I learned too late that protecting your heart too much can be just as damaging as breaking it.

And if you ever feel an unexplainable pull toward certain places, people, or ideasโ€”follow it. Maybe those are echoes of me. Or maybe theyโ€™re reminders that the soul remembers more than the mind ever will.

While being kind to yourself, please be kind to other people. I assure you that kindness always pays off.

Why This Message Matters

Writing to my reincarnated self isnโ€™t about certainty, nor will this message still exist in that future. I donโ€™t know if consciousness truly survives the body. But this exercise forces me to live more intentionally now. If some part of me continues, then what I do today matters beyond this lifetime.

It changes how I see mistakesโ€”not as permanent stains, but as lessons passed forward. It reframes fear into curiosity. It makes me wonder: if I had to live this life again in another form, what wisdom would I want to inherit?

Maybe the real purpose of believing in reincarnation isnโ€™t about the future at all. Maybe itโ€™s about learning how to live this life with more compassion, courage, and awarenessโ€”just in case someone else has to carry it next.

A Quiet Hope

If death is truly the start of another life, then I hope I leave you something useful. Not perfection. Not answers. Just a gentle reminder:

Youโ€™ve been here before.
Youโ€™ve survived more than you remember.
And you are allowed to begin again.

Wherever you are. Whoever you are.
Good luck.

1 day in DisneyWorld

DisneyWorld is not cheap. It is not easy to visit if you do not live in Orlando, Florida. Sometimes, you do not have enough time as well to spend in the park. So, let me share my experience of spending a day in DisneyWorld.

First, check the weather and make sure to wear something comfortable for that weather.

I flew from Nebraska to Orlando, Florida ($370 for a roundtrip ticket through United Airlines). I rented a car ($150/day plus gas). I booked a hotel (since I also went to Universal Studios, which will be the next post after this) for 3 days, 2 nights ($380). You should book a hotel. You will be too tired after spending the whole day here.

Day 1 was at DisneyWorld (if you want to spend your New Year’s Eve there, you have to book early for December 31st as tickets run out faster than Universal Studios). The ticket for Magic Kingdom was $190, plus tax, and all rides were included. Parking at Magic Kingdom was $35/day. Early entry was 8:30-9am. I highly recommend you to go there early.

From the parking lot, you will either walk or take the tram to get to the bus. stop, or ferry port or train station that will bring you to Magic Kingdom. A little walk from the entrance after they scanned your pass, you will be welcomed by the castle.

There are also several rides included in your park ticket, but lines were long (waited 1-2.5hrs in each ride that we did). Patience is key. Strategize your time. We did 3 extreme rides. I was feeling dizzy even before the rides, so I didn’t get to ride a lot of rides.

Drinking water is free, just bring a container. It is also free to bring your own food, but restaurants are available inside. I would say that the price of food was not that expensive contrary to what I heard before going there (burger+fries meal was $15).

The rest of the night was spent watching a parade and a fireworks show. My favorite was the fireworks show. But, be in front of the castle before the time of the show to get a good spot, as the area gets too crowded. It is not recommended to move around once the light show starts.

Overall, it was a fun experience. Going back to the parking lot, you have to take either the train, bus, or ferry, then walk to where you parked or take the tram. DisneyWorld offers hotels as well but we didn’t take one of those because of the price.

If you want to go to other parks, you have to allocate more days to get your money’s worth. Although you can do 2 parks in one day, it won’t be enough to get at least 2 rides for each park with the long lines.

I highly recommend it for kids. But, for adults with no kids, once is enough.

1 day in Vietnam, 1 day in Cambodia, 1 day in Thailand: a possible and sponty itinerary (but not recommended) for solo or group travelers

This itinerary happened in real life, but I personally and highly won’t recommend it, especially if the purpose is to enjoy and relax on your vacation. However, if you have a day in either of these places due to a layover, a business trip, or any other reason that only leaves you with a day in your schedule, then I hope this helps you.

So, this trip was planned before the pandemic. We were 3 people who bought the tickets, ready to get into a week of adventure to Vietnam, Thailand, and Cambodia, but were stopped by the virus. And life kept going. I got a job abroad and only have a few days of vacation from time to time. This time came last week of November, for two weeks, I needed to squeeze in meeting friends, visiting my mom’s school, and traveling to those long overdue places on my travel bucket list.

I was thinking of skipping one country. But my itch made us (two of us) decide to go to these 3 countries. This trip was very spontaneous, and we didn’t even consider the war between Thailand and Cambodia. We thought that their border would still be open for tourists (stupid of us). And that added to the challenge of squeezing 3 countries into a 4-day itinerary.

We left the Philippines at 4am (had to travel from Laguna to NAIA at 6pm and arrived around midnight). Arrived Ho Chi Minh airport around 6:30am, and passed through immigration around 7am. Then, we went to Ben Thanh Market (arrived around 7:30am, rode grab to reach the place). Our main goal was to do a Vietnamese food crawl and to explore the city.

And while sipping my first Vietnamese coffee(which, btw was very strong), that’s when we realized that the Cambodia-Thailand border was closed and we would have to either go through Laos (but we didn’t have enough time) or go back to Vietnam airport (because it was cheaper), and fly to Thailand. We decided to go to Cambodia by bus and go back to Ho Chi Minh to fly to Thailand. Moral of the story: be a responsible sponty traveler and do research.

Here, I was enjoying my Vietnamese coffee before realizing that the Cambodia-Thailand border was closed.

Then, once we felt that we had roamed enough, we decided to go to our hotel, take a nap and dress up for our cruise (Oh, di ba, nakapagcruise pa yan sila. LOL.).

I overslept and thought that we missed the cruise, but we didn’t. The Vietnamese were really friendly. We got on the ship, enjoyed the sunset with the view of the city while having a nice drink (the Cruise was booked through Klook, but this post is not sponsored. LOL.).

Later that night, we had dinner, then met my Vietnamese friend, who was very surprised by my visit. And, he had to drive from the countryside to the city to meet us. It was funny how a local was scared to cross a sea of motorbikes. We walked around the city and went to night markets.

Then, we went back to the hotel and rest. We did last minute booking of our bus ride to Cambodia from Ho Chi Minh. We left at exactly 7am and arrived at 3pm in Phnom Pehn, Cambodia. We were initially scared of the not-so-good news about Cambodia. But it was a very safe country! We also booked our Tuktuk by Grab to avoid scammers, as recommended by some blogs. We first went to our hotel to drop off our bags and then went to the temples. Recommendation: Book your hotel near the places you want to visit.

Temples close at 5:30pm, so we had to take our pictures outside the temples. We scrolled around. We had street food and then dinner of local food. We tried the Lok Lak and Khmer Fish Curry. They tasted amazing, although it was very salty. I was not sure if they were supposed to be that salty.

We went back to our hotel by Tuktuk. Slept. Then, it was time to go back to Ho Chi Minh for our flight to Thailand.

NOTE: For bus rides from Vietnam to Cambodia and back, you will have to give your passport to the bus operators and go through their immigration at the border.

The walk through the borders.

Back in Vietnam around 3pm. We had a late lunch. We were so hungry, but we were left with Vietnamese money enough for one meal. We had this before the lady told us we could pay by card! So, we had lunch at the airport.

We arrived in Thailand late at night. The next day, we booked a day tour for Ayutthaya. This included a tour guide, van, and entrance fees. We went to temples, old tombs, and a floating market replica.

At the floating market, we rode the boat. Then, we had lunch and ate pad thai satay and mango sticky rice. It was a clear sky day, but very hot! Make sure to wear cotton clothing. In the temples, girls were required to wear long pants/skirts, while sleeveless shirts were not allowed.

We got back to Bangkok around 6pm. It was still warm around that time. We were lucky that the traffic was not too bad. We met a friend doing school, and he brought us to Pratunam Market (as Chatuchak Weekend Market was not open on weekdays when we were there). We had dinner and capped off the trip with mango sticky rice (this was way better than the one we had at the floating market replica.

NOTE: McDonald’s food in Bangkok was expensive compared to local foods or McDonald’s in the Philippines.

Again, this itinerary is not for those seeking a relaxing vacation in these beautiful countries.

5 Habits for 2026 you can start small now

Here’s the thing: habits do not form overnight; it is years of commitment and discipline. Some say it only takes 21 days for a habit to build, but I beg to differ.

Try it. Get a habit as simple as reading a page of a book per day for 21 days. Then, get distracted, for example, by going to the beach for a week. Prolly for some people they can keep doing what they’ve been doing for 21 days and successfully destroy a bad habit through a good one. But not me, and I bet you are too.

I had been doing Duolingo for 2 minutes every day for 90 days in 2023, and I stopped because of a month of traveling that brought me back to day 1 of Duolingo. Fast forward to now, and I am in my second year of doing 2 minutes of Duolingo every day (but I still struggle to converse straight in Spanish. LOL.).

What I can say is that, to some people, habits are built for more than 21 days, probably to some, less than that. But, if you are like me, who needs more time to get a new habit in your system, try starting now before we count down to 2026. Here are five simple habits that you can start small now and might be beneficial for you:

1. Reading a page of a book per day. This can enhance your vocabulary. Imagine if the book has 210 pages, it 7 days, you will finish a book instead of nothing in a year.

2. Walk outside for 10 minutes every day. You do not need to compete with your friend’s Strava, you only need to move your body a little each day, and your body will thank you. In a week, your walk totals to an hour!

3. Sleep and wake up at the same time of day. If you’re sleeping at 11pm and waking up at 8am, that is fine as long as you are consistent. You keep your 8-9 hours of sleep for a week!

4. Do not grab your phone 10 minutes after waking up. Use a traditional alarm clock to wake you up, then, brush your teeth, stretch, or whatever as long as it doesn’t involve touching your phone for 10 minutes. In a week, it is 70 minutes less of screen time!

5. Meditate for a minute. Focus on your breathing for a complete minute. Do not touch your phone and avoid any form of distractions during those 60 seconds. You just gained 7 minutes of focus in that week and about half an hour in a month!

Lower Antelope Canyon: Fall vs. Winter

Can you guess which one was taken in the Fall and in the Winter? These images were both RAW and taken at the same time of the day (noon) with clear skies, but in different months. One’s in October, the other’s in December. The answer is at the end of the post.

Planning a trip to Lower Antelope Canyon and wondering whether to go in fall or winter? So, I recently went to Lower Antelope Canyon last October, which was my second time. The first time was this year, in January, which was winter. Both were around noon visits. You will trek and climb steep stairs. Hereโ€™s a detailed comparison of visiting during each seasonโ€”advantages, disadvantages, and key reminders to help you choose and prepare.

FeatureFallWinter
TemperatureModerate (cool mornings, warm afternoons)Cold (chilly days, potentially freezing nights)
Crowd LevelsLower than summer, but moderateVery low
Light / ColorWarm tones, good lighting, strong for photographySoft, diffused light, unique tones, fewer beams
Iconic Light BeamsLess frequent than summer, but possibleRare
Booking/Tour AvailabilityGood, but still fairly busyExcellent availability
Weather/Safety IssuesFew (just standard caution)Cold surfaces, weather variability, shorter day
Best ForBalanced experience: comfort + colorQuiet, contemplative visit, budget-friendly

My Recommendation

If I were to pick one season, because my priorities are peace & quiet, getting away from the crowds, and I donโ€™t mind dressing for cold and sacrificing the iconic light-beams, then winter is my top choice.

However, if you’re not a fan of extreme cold, Iโ€™d lean towards fall for the balanced benefits: comfortable weather, beautiful lighting/colors, and fewer extreme conditions.

Final Checklist Before You Go

  • โœ… Reserve your guided tour in advance (Book through Dixies’ or Ken’s online)
  • โœ… Check timing: aim for late morning/midday for best light.
  • โœ… Wear appropriate shoes for ladders/uneven terrain.
  • โœ… Dress in layers; bring sunscreen, hat, sunglasses.
  • โœ… Bring water, snacks, a small daypack (check tour rules for bag size).
  • โœ… Check weather forecast & local conditions (road access, surface conditions).
  • โœ… Arrive early (recommended 15โ€“30 minutes before tour).
  • โœ… Respect the land: stay with your guide, follow rules, carry out any trash.

Important note: NO VIDEOS ARE ALLOWED. Also, you can stop by the Horseshoe Bend, which is a 5-min drive from the canyon. Note the time changes as well if you’re coming from the Central Time Zone. For those who do not want to do a challenging trek and are scared of heights, I suggest you the Upper Antelope Canyon instead.

ANSWER: The image on the Left was taken last October, and the one on the Right was in December! The canyon was pretty in the eyes, but the lighting during the fall vs. winter made the difference.

Valley of Fire (a day tour if you are not a fan of the busy Las Vegas)

We had a quick trip to Las Vegas for a friend’s wedding. Three days to be exact. Half a day for traveling to Vegas, and half a day going back. The other half of our first day was spent to my friend’s wedding, which was a very simple yet very fairytale-like and held at night. I’ve been to Vegas twice now, and despite the very nice city lights and interesting activities, I am still not a huge fan of the strip or the casinos.

I like national and state parks instead. If you are like me, here’s my one-day itinerary at the Valley of Fire. This is 20mins to 1hr drive from the strip, depending on where you are staying. We initially planned to go to Red Rock, but I realized that our hotel was closer to Valley of Fire. It was also prettier in the pictures.

We arrived there around noon. Our mistake was not to bring food and a lot of water in the car. There’s a lot of nice spots inside the state park but also a lot of hiking. It was hot on the day we were there, and we only had 2 small bottles of water. So, CHECK THE WEATHER and bring the necessary things with you. Despite the unprepared trip to the state park, I still enjoyed it!

Entrance fee to the park was $15 for non-residents of Nevada and $10 for residents but because we had military discount, we only paid $9. KEEP YOUR RECEIPT! They check it when you exit the park.

We drove and hiked only few points. BE PREPARED for the HIKING! Wear comfortable shoes and clothes for the weather. Hikes were not too bad that even kids and grannies will enjoy it.

One-day Itinerary:

8-10am: Got up, prepared, and left.

10-11am: Breakfast.

11-12noon: Travel to Valley of Fire.

12:30pm: Checked in, used the bathroom.

12:30pm-4pm: Hiked 3 points in the State park.

4-5pm: Travel back to the hotel.

Corruption kills people

All my life, I experienced flooding annually. I would blame my parents for choosing a bad place for a house. I got traumatized by the rain, flood, and wind brought by typhoons in the Philippines. Then, all this corruption in flood control in the news showed up. And, I realized, my parents were not the problem. They did what they thought was best.

It’s enraging, nakakagalit. It has shown me how brutally those people are using taxpayers’ money for their own benefit. You see, flooding not only kills people through flash floods or erosion, but also indirectly kills people through hunger or sickness.

For years, I was always worried our house would be destroyed by the flood on top of my sick father. I grew up anxious about the rain, and so did those who had the same experience. I remember lining up in a queue to get relief goods with the politician’s name or face, or getting to a crowded area only to beg for that little money that could barely afford a week’s worth of dialysis. I swear, getting some money for a dialysis session was like begging. And, we couldn’t even afford to protest for begging the taxpayers’ money.

But, the billions of pesos going to the pockets of these corrupt individuals are the cause of the death of many. I saw my father telling us not to bother spending money on him, and I know that when he got bedridden, he was considerate enough to think about our welfare that he thought he’d be a hassle to us when the flood entered the house again. This is just a lone example. How much more those families who are poorer than us? They think that these politicians giving us little from the taxpayers’ money are their heroes, not knowing that they’re the very cause of why we got into that situation. Those individuals who are fighting fair would endure the bare minimum in an evacuation center when the flood destroyed their homes and would rather choose to die instead of going to the hospitals. If this money were only used to brace the Philippines in every typhoon, my family and other average and poor families wouldn’t be so stressed out about where to get money if their basic needs are destroyed by a flood.

It’s a sad reality that takes time to understand. But, I hope this issue does not die down and the beginning of a better flood control project or a health care system.

3 Days and 3 National Parks

If you have very limited time to visit the National Parks, let me tell you, you can do see 3 National Parks including the 28-hr travel time.

We drove from East to West, from Omaha, NE, which was 14hrs from these National Parks. It will be good if you’ll start driving in the morning of your first day out of your 3 days and sleep close to one of the National Parks. On our way to Zion National Park, we stopped by Arches National Park. Slept overnight close to Zion National Park. The parking was terrible at 10am at Zion National Park and we ended up driving around and went to Bryce National Park.

Arches National Park

The hike to the famous arch was so long. In the summer, it was scorching hot. Be prepared. Bring at least a liter of water per person, sunscreen, and wear the most comfortable shoes.

Zion National Park

Make sure to be here early so you can get a good parking spot. At around 10am, we couldn’t find a parking spot so we just drove around and the scenery was still worth our time.

Bryce National Park

This place was majestic. The trek was easy. It could get hot in here, so remember to bring water, sunscreen, and a granola bar with you before trekking. Also, each spot was worth a photo.

On our 3rd and last day, we drove back home. It was a sweet and short trip but our eyes are filled with good views and memories.

Ningas Cogon, flash in the pan, fleeting enthusiasm

Or starting strong but not finishing.

Ningas Cogon has a literal meaning of quick flame in the grass, but a Filipino idiom which means that you only show an initial burst of interest or effort for a new project or task but fails to sustain it over time. It highlights a lack of perseverance and consistency, where something is started with fervor but abandoned once the initial excitement fades.

The past few weeks, the headlines in the Philippines news were about the Nepo babies and their lavish lifestyle. But, they are unacceptable nepo babies because the wealth that they flaunt comes from corruption. Corruption causing the decade flood control problem and other flaws in the societal system where poor and average taxpayers suffer the most.

The sad thing is, we are ningas cogon. We only focus on the initial trending news. We forgot to fight until the end. Let’s take, for example, the case of Alice Guo. Where is she now? Is she getting punished the same way as those poor people convicted for stealing a tray of eggs because they are hungry?

After a while, once this news on nepo babies and billions getting to the pockets of greedy officials and contractors, are we just gonna end up forgiving and forgetting these cold-hearted people? Are we not tired of suffering from floods? While these cold-hearted people enjoy our taxes?

I wanted to remind myself that, as part of the community, it is my responsibility to not forget easily these people who do not play fair in the game of life. May we all learn to persevere and fight for the better life of our next generation.

The story of the purple tulip

My younger sister died before she was even born.

I was 5 at the time, and now I am 80.

As a big sister, I could be grieving for such huge loss.

We found a purple tulip the next day that my sister died.

It was a kind of purple that up until this time I haven’t seen another one.

I was distracted by its beauty but didn’t see any deeper meaning.

I didn’t even understand my feelings as a kid, as I do now.

I didn’t cry when she died, and neither did I mourn at any time in my life.

I saw my father cried but, my mother mourned her the most.

I learned that grief feels different at each stage of your life and who are you grieving for.

Your emotions grow older as you mature.

Love builds and sticks through time.

My love for my sister was a love I never understood.

Now that I am older, I would love to believe that the purple tulip was my little sister.

They said tulip bulbs multiply,

But, the purple tulip stayed there by itself.

They also said that tulips bloom for seven years at the most.

The purple tulip is now 75 years old, and so was my little sister.

(Disclaimer: purple tulip was real. It is 75 years old, and was found the next day after the death of a sister. Other details are from the writer.)